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Tuesday 27 September 2011

FamiLY

Two days ago, I was in a situation concerning my family, and then I kept thinking how families are meant to be…

Most often, we find ourselves being closer and polite to our “other families”- circle of friends. We even go to an extent of really helping them out when they are in need and standing with them through every trial. That’s very good, infact that’s how real friends ought to be…but it becomes a great concern when we struggle to do the same to our own blood.  Sounds familiar?

I came across this caption of mail from a dear friend – Mr. T, and it read:
"Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days? But the family we left behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives"

And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than into our own family, an unwise investment indeed, don't you think? Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU

At times, we see our family as a burden or a bother. I wonder, what really happened to family love? Rightfully so in answering this we tend to blame our other siblings for not taking their equal share in maintaining the family unity. But reality is, the buck starts with you…yes you.

You might be the only member in your family who cares about the rest, who makes phone calls, who religiously pays visits, who is dependable and who in literal sense holds the family in its place – the only responsible member as it were.  No one might even notice your efforts or appreciate you. Feelings of burn-outs may creep in, but just know that you are placed in that family for a reason. You might even be the least or insignificant among your siblings, but there’s still something valuable in you, that isn’t present in any other person.

Start thinking differently about your family…remove all the default mindsets that you have unconsciously created.  Ask God to help you with a complete overhaul of a mind and heart change.

Personally, there are times I have wished that I wasn’t born into the family that I am in.  Perhaps you are feeling me on this or maybe not.  However, just the fact that God chooses for us our biological family means that, He wants you and me there, and no other place.

So keep giving your all in all for your family, God sees your efforts and He will honour you in due time.  Fight for your family...but if you are the kind your cares less about your family, you’ve distance yourself and you are evading to pull your weight, then you are bringing so much agony. Change!...coz family is where you and I belong!!